Of Course, the first answer is you. You get one life and you own it. It’s your future. And you get to say what it will be. After you, who do you see as most important? If it is not your spouse or significant other, how do you expect to experience the joy and success life has to offer?
If your significant other is not the most important person in your life, why are you with them? Your significant other has more influence on you than any other person. For many people, they might say their parents are more important. Except, your day-to-day happiness as well as your future depends on the influence and cooperation of your significant other. Who could be more important than that?
After your significant other, your children come next. They are also in your home. Your family and friends have less influence on you because they do not live with you.
I ask that you look at it from another perspective. Napoleon Hill talks about the necessity of developing a mastermind group. He says that it is a group of 2 or more people who are committed to one another’s success. The people in the group will discuss possibilities that may or may not be mutually beneficial. Since your significant other has the most influence on your life, they should be the first member of your mastermind group.
Hill also says that no person has ever accomplished anything great without having a mastermind group. A good example is Henry Ford’s relationship with his wife. He was able to discuss all of his ideas with her. And, being the closest to him, she was able to empower him in ways that others could not.
In creating your mastermind group with your spouse, it is imperative that you create harmony. Being the most important person in your life, you must create harmony with yourself first. If you are lying to yourself about anything, it will be impossible to have harmony with anyone. That harmony you develop comprises what you bring to the mastermind group with your significant other. That state of harmony is what will be brought to all of your endeavors, including raising your children together.
On the other hand, if you believe your friends are more important than your significant other, you will bounce from relationship to relationship until you understand the meaning of significant other. When you do get it, you will experience the joy of trust, love and harmony. It is beautiful to know that your spouse trusts you enough to speak with you about anything. It is more beautiful when the 2 of you mastermind about possibilities that grow from idea to reality before your eyes.
So consider your own harmony today. Be honest with yourself about what you believe in and what you want out of life. Then go home one day this week and invite your significant other to be the first member of your mastermind group. Tell him or her about your dreams and the challenges you could face to accomplish them. Openly listen to their feedback and use it where appropriate. If you do this, you will not need luck. You will only need one another and a definite plan for accomplishing your dreams. So go for it!
What do you think? I would love to hear what you think.